|—||Jamie Tworkowski (via towearloveonhersleeve)|
shhh don’t say mean things about yourself, i happen to like that person.
So, tomorrow’s the big day. We all know how it’s going to go. Lots of family, lots of food, lots of anxiety. I thought I’d put together a few helpful tips to prevent relapse during this stressful time.
- Create a plan. Get together with your parents, grandparents, what have you. Explain to them that you’re worried about struggling tomorrow and ask them if they have any advice. Set up a plan of action then and make sure everyone is on the same page.
- Example planning. Figure out where you’re going, what the meal will be, when it will be, who will be there and when they will be arriving. Based on these facts, create something that will work best for you and your family.
- Before the meal. Stay out of the kitchen. Socialize, watch the parade, draw, use your phone to be on tumblr. Maybe go somewhere a little more secluded and write out the reasons you don’t want to go back to your behaviors. Right beforehand, go to the bathroom. You don’t want to be in there for at least an hour after you eat. If you do have to pee afterwards, ask someone to talk to you while you are in the bathroom to help prevent purging.
- Food. Hopefully this was covered in your planning. If it’s easier for you to have someone else build your plate, have them do so. If you have a meal plan, explain it to the person getting your food so they know how to get you what you need. Try not to focus on how much or how little everyone else is eating, they do not matter. Engage in conversation while eating, keep your mind away from bad thoughts. It’s probably a good idea to plan to have at least one person who will be with you and distract you throughout the whole meal.
- Friendly Reminder. Eating this food will not make you fat. Thanksgiving is a time to be grateful for what you have, enjoy time with family, and nourish your body. If you lie on the couch for hours afterwards, that’s perfectly fine and encouraged. You are not to burn off this whole meal. It will only make things worse. You are strong, beautiful and intelligent. You are recovering. You are a warrior. If you do happen to relapse on Thanksgiving, there is nothing wrong with you. These things happen. We still love you, so does your family. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and carry on.
- After the meal. Breathe. Stay away from the bathroom. Actually, just don’t let yourself be alone. Perhaps ask someone to accompany you for a short, slow walk outside where you can vent your feelings and talk them out. There will be dessert. Do not feel pressure to eat any if you don’t feel up to it! If you do though, hell yeah. You eat a slice of pumpkin pie boo, put that whipped cream on it and have some hot cocoa. Either way, try to stay aware of your limits and work around them. Thanksgiving is not a day to take huge risks unless you believe you are in a stable place mentally. Stay engaged in conversation, turn on some music, play with the children, sit outside, etc. Distractions are key.
- Later. Ok, so it’s likely you had an early dinner, maybe before 3 or 4 pm? You know what this means, right? More food has to be consumed later. It’s good to keep in mind that, while it’s a stereotype that everyone eats a lot at Thanksgiving, it’s not always true. If you followed your meal plan and ate what you needed, you will need more food later. Even if you ate more than you needed, you will need more food later. Once again, there is nothing bad about this. You can do it. Try something easy, treat yourself gently right now love. It was a long day, but you totally conquered it. Even if you fudged up and acted on behaviors, you are still here and you are still alive. Keep fighting, don’t give up. I believe in you and I love you.